Thursday, September 24th
I used to cringe when that other person shared. I couldn’t possibly relate to their issues.
SCA meetings are spaces where members can share their experience, strength, and hope in mutual support. We welcome all: the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop having compulsive sex.
We may experience some sense of hope, community, and healing at a meeting. Sometimes, though, one might find it difficult to relate to a reading or a particular share. The slogan Take what you like and leave the rest reminds us that shares impact different people differently.
We might find ourselves harshly judging some fellow members and wanting to avoid them while admiring others and wanting to become like them. Some of us will judge others for trivial reasons.
Most meetings establish rules about crosstalk and subject matter, but there is usually plenty of latitude about what people say at meetings. Someone may bring up current events, politics, or social media in a way we find distracting or even offensive. Everyone’s recovery journey is unique. Through our work, we can develop compassion for ourselves and tolerance for others.
That member’s share brought me to tears. The feelings she described were also mine.