August 26th Meditation: Defining My Higher Power

Wednesday, August 26th

August 26thDefining My Higher Power 

All this Higher Power talk sounds religious. What am I supposed to believe?

SCA does not require us to “believe” anything. As we work our recovery, we can stop believing that we can somehow cure ourselves from sexual compulsion by applying pressure and willpower. When we recognize and strip away these false beliefs, we can accept help.

In Step Two, we hear about a power greater than ourselves and become willing to trust this unknown power in Step Three. How can we trust a concept that we cannot readily identify? We can conceive of such a power—if it is greater than ourselves—as a Higher Power. That is simple enough. But what is our Higher Power?

Our Higher Power may equate to a traditional understanding of God, perhaps our conception of a deity, or maybe the group’s collective wisdom. Some SCA members focus on finding a Higher Power that has a positive attitude toward sex and sexuality. We define this power for ourselves; therefore, it is an integral part of us.

Once we begin to trust that a Higher Power of our understanding cares for us, we can start taking actions to change our lives, knowing that we are not alone. There is help.

Through intimacy with my Higher Power, I have learned to turn over my control. 

August 25th Meditation: Harm Reduction and Sobriety

Tuesday, August 25th

August 25thHarm Reduction and Sobriety 

Our purpose is not to make our sex lives more rigid but to free them from harmful behaviors.

Many of us were so self-absorbed in our sexual compulsion that we failed to connect our actions with their consequences. We only wanted to satisfy our urge for more and to find the oblivion we desperately sought. For some, our view of the world narrowed until compulsive sex was all we could see.

Sexual compulsion became an overused and ineffective tool to help us deal with life’s ups and downs. It became automatic, a repetitive act, and we forgot or gave up on other ways of living.

“My nightly search for sex had become a ritual. I routinely had unsafe sex because I no longer cared about what might happen to me.”

Admitting our powerlessness and unmanageability begins to open cracks in the wall we have built around us. We find a way to connect to hope: that we can stop harming ourselves and others and that sobriety will expand our lives.

The spiritual process of recovery can enable our willingness to change. We gradually achieve change by modifying our behaviors, embracing our feelings, learning to accept who we are, and having compassion for ourselves and others.

We will discover that sexual sobriety is more rewarding than compulsive sex. 

SCA Daily Meditations e-book now available

Our Journey of Recovery: SCA Daily Meditations is now available in e-book format through Amazon Kindle, Apple Books, and Google Books for $7.99. We will continue to post today’s (and tomorrow’s) meditation for free on our website each day. However, e-book users can click the “List of Titles” (an index) on each page to choose any topic or issue mentioned in any part of the book and instantly click the relevant texts. A slogan index is also linked to those texts. SCA plans to produce a print version of this book later this summer. Here are the links to the three e-book platforms.

Apple

https://books.apple.com/us/book/our-journey-of-recovery/id6503449662

Amazon

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0D5N3ZFNY/ref=kinw_myk_ro_title

Google

https://play.google.com/books/reader?id=Tw4LEQAAQBAJ&pg=GBS.PT1