Saturday, August 22nd
August 22nd – Creating a Sexual Recovery Plan
I did not know what a Sexual Recovery Plan was or how it could help me.
The nature of sexual compulsion often veils our true needs and desires with fantasy and confusion over sex. A Sexual Recovery Plan can help us break through the chaos and decide how to handle this sensitive part of our lives. Creating such a plan is a process of “peeling the onion” to examine our compulsion, layer by layer. We may ask a sponsor or other member to help us build our plan.
We often felt shame about our compulsive behaviors, but we were powerless to stop them. We had no skills to help us resolve this conflict. Forming an SRP enables us to identify the harmful sexual activities from which we seek relief. We can develop guidelines by establishing boundaries around those behaviors. A plan may also give us insight into some of the conditions that may trigger our bottom-line behaviors and help us identify positive actions to replace those harmful activities.
By setting guidelines for our behavior, the plan frees us from making anxiety-provoking choices in the confusion of sudden opportunity or sexual excitement.
By following a Sexual Recovery Plan, we move away from harmful behaviors. We find ourselves gaining the time and energy that we had been spending on our compulsions.