Friday, July 3rd
I experience intimacy by freely sharing with members of my sobriety community.
In our compulsive state, we often had difficulty finding and sustaining healthy bonds with others. We wanted intimacy, but our habits of concealment and compartmentalization made us fear giving up our need for control. Revealing ourselves intimately to another person may have seemed beyond our reach.
Upon entering SCA, we hear members tell their stories, sharing their truth with us. We may learn about the Steps and other tools and begin to feel a sense of safety and trust. That sense of being alone in the world, of being unlovable, starts to fade.
Attending meetings and socializing with fellow members help us break down the isolation in which sexual compulsion thrives. Whatever our individual stories might be, we usually recognize a common thread that unites us in our recovery journey.
As we welcome newcomers, we are reminded that SCA is a “we” program. Our welcome will never be perfect, but neither is our recovery: if we want to make progress, we can take action by reaching out to others.
Once we break down the initial barriers that separate us, we find that what we have in common enhances our recovery as sexual compulsives.
I realize I am not alone in my recovery. I get support from other SCA members.