Lived Experiences of Recovery from Compulsive Sexual Behavior among Members of a “S” group: A Qualitative Thematic Analysis

ABSTRACT

Despite the prominence of 12-step recovery as an approach to addressing compulsive sexual behavior (CSB) worldwide, little is known about the phenomenological experiences of recovery from CSB among individuals who participate in 12-step groups for CSB (known as ‘S’ groups). The present qualitative study used in-depth interviews to explore lived experiences of recovery from CSB among 14 members (13 males and one female) of an ‘S’ group. Inductive thematic analysis of the interview data yielded five themes: (i) unmanageability of life as impetus for change, (ii) addiction as a symptom of a deeper problem, (iii) recovery is more than just abstinence, (iv) maintaining a new lifestyle and ongoing work on the self, and (v) the gifts of recovery. Participants typically described their initiation into recovery as being precipitated by the escalating negative consequences of their sexual behavior. Over time in recovery, they came to see their sexual acting out as a manifestation of unresolved underlying issues that would need to be addressed in recovery. They also came to believe that to achieve lasting abstinence from their problematic sexual behaviors, their overarching recovery goal would need to expand beyond just abstinence to the long-term maintenance of the quality of their recovery as a whole. This was achieved primarily through the creation and maintenance of a new lifestyle and engagement in ongoing work on the self. This new way of living was described as resulting in positive changes beyond just the alleviation of CSB symptoms, including personal transformation and improvements in overall quality of life. This qualitative study is the first to analyze recovery experiences of ‘S’ group members using a bottom-up approach and provides insights into how these members describe and make sense of their recovery journeys.

Introduction

Although the clinical phenomenon of compulsive sexual behavior (CSB; also conceptualized as ‘sex addiction’, ‘hypersexuality’, ‘sexual impulsivity’ or ‘out-of-control-sexual-behavior’) has been described and theorized about in the literature for decades (e.g., Barth & Kinder, Citation1987; Carnes, Citation1983; Coleman, Citation1991; Goodman, Citation1992; Grubbs et al., Citation2020; Kafka, Citation2010), it has only recently received formal recognition as a clinical disorder. In 2019, the World Health Organization (WHO) included the diagnosis of compulsive sexual behavior disorder (CSBD) as an impulse control disorder in the eleventh revision of the International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11; World Health Organization [WHO], 2019). A conservative approach was taken for the ICD-11 in categorizing it as an impulse control disorder instead of an addictive disorder because there is (to date) insufficient clinical evidence to determine whether the processes involved in the development and maintenance of the disorder are equivalent to other recognized forms of addiction (Kraus et al., Citation2018).

The prevalence of CSB in the adult population has been estimated to be between 3% and 8.6% (Bőthe et al., Citation2020; Dickenson, Gleason, Coleman, & Miner, Citation2018; Klein, Rettenberger, & Briken, Citation2014; Sussman, Lisha, & Griffiths, Citation2011). According to the ICD-11, CSBD is characterized by “a persistent pattern of failure to control intense, repetitive sexual impulses or urges, resulting in repetitive sexual behavior… over an extended period (e.g., six months or more) and causes marked distress or significant impairment in personal, family, social, educational, occupational or other important areas of functioning” (World Health Organization, Citation2019, p. 1). CSB encompasses various types of compulsive solo or relational sexual behaviors such as masturbation, pornography use, cybersex, casual sex with multiple partners, use of escort services and sex workers, or frequenting of strip clubs (Karila et al., Citation2014; Reid, Carpenter, & Lloyd, Citation2009). Moreover, individuals with CSB may engage in more than one sexual behavior that is compulsive (Derbyshire & Grant, Citation2015). These compulsive behaviors lead to significant negative consequences for the individual, including (but not limited to) emotional distress, relationship difficulties (e.g., betrayal of trust in romantic relationships), diminished self-esteem and self-respect, unintended pregnancies, and risk of HIV and sexually transmitted infections (McBride, Reece, & Sanders, Citation2008; Muench et al., Citation2007; Reid, Garos, & Fong, Citation2012). While rigorous outcome studies on CSB treatments using gold-standard approaches such as randomized controlled trials are scarce, likely due to CSB only recently receiving formal recognition as a clinical disorder (Grubbs et al., Citation2020), various treatments have nonetheless been delivered to treatment-seekers over the years. Treatment approaches (for reviews, see Briken, Citation2020; Dhuffar & Griffiths, Citation2015a; Efrati & Gola, Citation2018b; Garcia et al., Citation2016; Malandain, Blanc, Ferreri, & Thibaut, Citation2020; Miles, Cooper, Nugent, & Ellis, Citation2016) include individual and/or group psychotherapies, pharmacotherapies, and mutual-help support groups such as 12-step groups, which is the focus of the present study.

An SCA Outreach Weekend

Thanks to the efforts of Gordon B., Gary S., Robert A., and Brian V., SCA has reached out in new ways to hundreds of individuals in the addiction community trying to help those that may be suffering from SCBD (Sexual Compulsive Behavior Disorder).

SCA presented it’s first ever workshop and meeting at the AA Florida Roundup in Ft. Lauderdale. The session focused on the Characteristics – which were somewhat unfamiliar to many of the attendees – and the Tools of Recovery.  At the same time across the country in Phoenix, AZ, SCA was a first time exhibitor at the annual IITAP (International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals) Symposium.  This event was well attended by the most influential therapists and treatment facilities in this field.  Most of those that stopped by our both were not familiar with SCA and this was a great opportunity to enlighten them of all the good work that we do.  Those that knew of us, said that they refer many of their clients to our meetings and were happy to see us at this event.

We hope that SCA’s outreach will help grow our program, and in doing so will help our members recovery.

The Deadly Subculture of Internet Video Vigilantes by J.L.Flatley (edited for the SCAnner)

Officially approved a new characteristic on Sexual Anorexia/Avoidance

Last week a new characteristic was approved at the 2025 International Service Organization (ISO) conference.  Here is the language of the newly approved characteristic:

We were sexually anorexic: in despair about our lack of physical and emotional intimacy with ourselves and others, yet unaware of how much we feared and avoided it. 

The ISO of SCA also unanimously approved a motion to list this new characteristic as #11 in our list of The Characteristics Most of Us Seem to Have in Common. This  new characteristic #11 is now incorporated into all the www.sca-recovery.org  characteristic readings, including “Newcomers,”  “Program and Tools,” and the SCA Literature store, where individual copies of the Four-Fold and For the Newcomer  can be downloaded and printed for free. These include the revised Characteristics. As of this morning, both the SCA NY and the SCA LA websites have also included the revised Characteristics. 

What really causes Addiction?

The opposite of Addiction is not abstinence or sobriety. The opposite of Addiction is CONNECTION. In SCA we connect to others that share our addiction. We connect to a fellowship that supports us and we can connect to a Higher Power, a spirituality that unconditionally loves and guides us.

Could addiction be about isolation and being disconnected from society? Listen to this TED talk by Johann Hari for some interesting insights on this subject.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PY9DcIMGxMs

Questions & Thoughts

“I am hopping and trying to find meetings with open communication. This will only help me with my own Honesty, Shame, Trust, Hope, Strength & Willingness to Learns and to Stay & Remain OPEN Always .. Please 🙏 Any HELP IS & Will be Appreciated”  – D.W.

Dear D.W.,

All SCA meetings support member’s sharing their feelings, experience, strength and hope with each other, that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from sexual compulsion. If our behavior was illegal, we might seek out someone (like our sponsor) with whom we can be entirely honest without fear of consequences and choose to share our feelings at meetings instead of the details.  We ask members to respect the anonymity and confidentiality of every person we meet and everything we hear at meetings.

Anonymity assures that our meetings are safe for those in pain. This respect of anonymity keeps the program safe for members and prospective members to attend. Through the anonymity offered at meetings, we find a refuge where we are neither judged nor shamed.  Many of our meeting’s format have a sharing portion where members may share breakthroughs or breakdowns in their program, ask questions, get current on situations in their lives, or just express honest feelings they may be in touch with. Crosstalk is discouraged and is defined as: Giving advice, criticizing, or making comments about someone else’s share, questioning or interrupting the person speaking, talking while someone is sharing, or speaking directly to another person rather than to the group.

We suggest attending a few meeting to find a “home” meeting that you feel most comfortable.  We have available in-person, on line, virtual and hybrid meetings that can be found on our website: sca-recovery.org

Please make these announcements at your meetings, intergroup and to other interested parties

We have updated and changed the new SCA YouTube Channel link to: https://www.youtube.com/@SCA-Recovery . Please subscribe to the channel to help its visibility. New videos are being uploaded on a regular basis. Feel free to give this information to therapists, health and recovery facilities and to the addict who still is suffering.  We also need members to be of service and allow us to use and share their recordings of their commentaries on various chapters of our Big Book, A Program of Recovery.
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Thank you for your help,
Gary S  ISO Outreach Committee Chairman

Sexual Addiction or Sexual Compulsivity: What to Call It?

Should sexually compulsive behavior be designated a disorder or an addiction? Relatively recently, the World Health Organization (WHO) added compulsive sexual behavior disorder (CSBD) as an official diagnosis. Clinicians have long required clear criteria to establish a diagnosis and engage in a treatment protocol.

For additional information read the article from Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/202411/sexual-addiction-or-sexual-compulsivity-what-to-call-it