July 16th Meditation: Impatience with Slow Progress

Tuesday, July 16th

I wanted to join SCA, stay a few months, then leave! I’m glad I stayed.

In our compulsion, many of us sought instant gratification. We might have fretted, lost patience, and perhaps blown up at others if we did not get our way, sexually or otherwise. After joining SCA, we may have become frustrated at the slowness of our recovery, wishing we could finish the Steps in a few months and then “Presto: we’re cured!”

The recovery process is not just a linear series of exercises or tests to see if we can achieve sobriety. Rather, recovery is a journey of personal growth, which for many of us includes resuming the “growing up” we had put on hold when we first began our earliest acting out.

Working the first three Steps can enable us to trust a Higher Power of our choosing while letting go of the need to control our compulsion. We begin to understand how our Higher Power can help us grow spiritually, not just stop us from acting out.

Making the journey involves a commitment to honesty, patience, and fearlessness. We found the courage to begin when we attended our first meeting. Taking inventory, asking for help, restoring relationships, and learning compassion are ways we can develop serenity and lasting sobriety.

Recovery is a lifetime journey that brings many gifts.

July 15th Meditation: On Humility

Monday, July 15th

Humility is part of letting go.

Many of us thought of humility as humiliation, which we associated with shame, embarrassment, and a sense of low self-worth. Frequently, our deep-seated shame was a root cause of acting out our sexual compulsions, and this feeling could lead to perfectionism, grandiosity, or over-dependence on others.

As we work our recovery, we hear others share their experience, strength, and hope in meetings. Shares might include words or phrases such as “gratitude,” “Higher Power,” and “humility.”

Humility is a state of realizing that we are not in control and that we do not have all the answers. We may learn how turning our control over to our Higher Power can reduce the burdens of self-imposed strain and stress. We can do the work and trust our Higher Power by letting go of the results.

We learn to take actions that are contrary to our learned impulses. We humbly ask for help, knowing that by asking, we are breaking away from our former ties to compulsion and shame. When we honestly admit to ourselves the exact nature of our wrongs, we begin to develop humility, honesty, and integrity so that we can become the people we wish to be.

Through practicing humility, we become “right-sized” — neither grandiose nor self-deprecating. 

SCA Daily Meditations e-book now available

Our Journey of Recovery: SCA Daily Meditations is now available in e-book format through Amazon Kindle, Apple Books, and Google Books for $7.99. We will continue to post today’s (and tomorrow’s) meditation for free on our website each day. However, e-book users can click the “List of Titles” (an index) on each page to choose any topic or issue mentioned in any part of the book and instantly click the relevant texts. A slogan index is also linked to those texts. SCA plans to produce a print version of this book later this summer. Here are the links to the three e-book platforms.

Apple

https://books.apple.com/us/book/our-journey-of-recovery/id6503449662

Amazon

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0D5N3ZFNY/ref=kinw_myk_ro_title

Google

https://play.google.com/books/reader?id=Tw4LEQAAQBAJ&pg=GBS.PT1