Friday, February 21st
We tended to become immobilized by romantic obsessions. We became addicted to the search for sex and love; as a result, we neglected our lives.
For some, our tendency to objectify and romanticize others became compulsive. We lost ourselves in fantasies involving people we envied, admired, or found physically attractive. The exhilaration we initially experienced overwhelmed us, and we became obsessed.
“Eventually, my only tool for survival was my sex and love addiction, until my entire focus was on the search for anonymous sex and unrequited love.”
During periods of romantic obsession, many of us set aside or even ignored our other relationships. The intense infatuation became our top priority: endlessly fascinating, often painful, and always urgent.
By using the SCA Tools of Recovery, we find hope. Gradually, we begin to change our behaviors and find self-awareness and self-acceptance. We experience our feelings fully, without the compelling need to escape them. We learn to separate fantasy from reality in our relations with others.
“I learned that healthy relationships grow in stages involving a different set of skills and level of surrender. I prayed to be more open to healthy intimacy and then took action to make myself available for that possibility.”
My sexual recovery program gives me clarity and tools for living life in better, more fulfilling ways.