Wednesday, January 15th
We are not here to repress our God-given sexuality, but to learn how to express it in ways that will not make unreasonable demands on our time and energy, place us in legal jeopardy, or endanger our mental, physical or spiritual health.
“I did not know what healthy sex was when I was single. It was simple when I was in a relationship: no sex outside my relationship. But what would healthy, ‘single’ sex look like for me?”
For many of us, healthy sexuality sounds boring or seems like an ideal we think we cannot reach. Sexual intimacy, genuine affection, and emotional closeness seem far away, and we do not know how to get there.
By attending meetings and working our recovery one day at a time, we listen to other members’ stories. From hearing their experience, strength, and hope, we learn how other members have dealt with their issues. By doing so, we can find freedom from our most destructive behaviors and toxic shame.
Through working the Steps, using the program’s tools, and developing a relationship with a Higher Power, we can experience a spiritual awakening that enables us to focus on personal growth. As our compulsive behaviors recede, our sex lives become more about making choices. This change gives us the freedom to define healthy sexuality for ourselves.
Working my recovery, I have found it easier to replace acting out with positive new behaviors.